I see lots of women who are just overloaded. They have a full-time
job, children to raise, a marriage to maintain, other family members to
deal with, social obligations and Lord knows what else. Growing up, the
message for some women was, "you can have it all!" And so, we thought
that was the ideal to pursue: having it ALL.
These same women
desperately try to make it all work as perfectly as they can. And they
are so HARD on themselves because they aren't Superwoman. You see, they
have ALL OF THAT responsibility that I listed above and then wonder why
they can't muster up more energy to work out five days a week and look
like a fitness model.
"But, look at Susie over there! She has
just as much on her plate and can do it! She can go to Zumba five times
a week!! And she wears a size 4!"
"I commute an hour each way,
am responsible for feeding my family, have to help my kids with their
homework, and, well, I know I'm just making excuses, but...I'm just too
tired to go to the gym. I wish I weren't so lazy."
BUT REMEMBER YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL LADIES! YOU CAN BE ANYTHING YOU WANT TO BE!!
Well, what if I don't WANT IT ALL?? What if I can't HANDLE it all???
Sometimes, the idea that we have to "have it all" hurts us more than it
helps us. It causes us to put unrealistic expectations on ourselves.
It makes it easy to fall into the comparison trap. We look at others
who "seem to have it all and make it look easy" and we wonder what the
hell is wrong with us.
Stop. Stop thinking you have to "have it
all". You don't. We all have our own individual threshold for what we
can and cannot handle and that's okay. It doesn't matter what Susie
over there is doing. That's her business. Besides, you can't judge a
book by its cover. Appearances aren't always what they seem. Public
lives and private lives don't always match. You don't know what is
happening behind closed doors.
Instead of keeping up with the
Joneses, ask yourself: What are YOU doing? What do you want YOUR life
to look like? That is where the focus needs to be.
And, for
heaven's sake, be a little kinder to yourself. Yes, an exercise routine
can be part of a healthy lifestyle, but not when it's a "should" or a
"have to", not to mention it is more stress on the body which, if the
body is already stressed, will hurt more than it will help. It's not
healthy when we are already burning the candle at both ends and then try
to add something else to the mix.
Take a deep breath and let
yourself off the hook. Figure out what part of "having it all" makes
sense to you and then just let the rest of that crap go. You don't have
to be Superwoman.
Sometimes, having it all is realizing that you
don't. And that's just fine.
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