Hello, Tuesday. Welcome back to normalcy.
Not only was this a holiday weekend, but, for me, it was also our wedding anniversary yesterday.
We had a GREAT day.
My husband and I went
to a wonderful restaurant in Newburyport, MA with a great view of the
water. I sipped wine while we dined on calamari for an appetizer
followed by lobster pie for me and a lobster roll for him.
After lunch, we walked around the downtown area (which is so quaint) to
check out the sights. There was a lot to see, both people, and
vendors, since it was a holiday.
We got home around 4 pm and
opened a bottle of champagne to toast each other to 14 years of
marriage. Our day was topped off by frozen yogurt sundaes for dinner.
I will say it again: it was a GREAT day!
So, now it's back to "normalcy". What does that mean for me these
days? Well, it no longer means "atoning for the sins of the weekend" by
restricting my food intake and doubling up on exercise. It means
listening to my body and honoring my hunger and fullness cues as best I
can. You see, nothing is off limits for me anymore. Nothing is
forbidden, so I choose what I want, enjoy some or most of it (I rarely
finish a full portion of anything since making peace with food), and I
move the hell on.
Think about Christmas for a second. There is
such a huge build up to this holiday every year, isn't there? For
about a month before, there are holiday songs on the radio, decorations,
parties, holiday themed beverages and rich foods to enjoy with friends
and family. There is a huge build up that culminates into a fun and
Now, imagine if every day was Christmas. Yeah,
that's right, you heard me -- pretend every day was a holiday. Do you
think it would hold the same magic and meaning if it was the norm
instead of the exception?
The point of that analogy is simply
this: all food can be good food and all food can be enjoyed no matter
what day it is. If nothing is ever demonized, deliberately withheld or
off limits, then you can choose more intuitively based on what your body
is asking you for. I'll tell you this much: mine doesn't ask me for
champagne in the afternoon or frozen yogurt sundaes for dinner every
day. I used to worry it would back then because I had such an "all or
nothing mindset". I bounced between the extremes of restriction and
binging. Once I let go of the food rules and the diet mentality, I
found my balance.
Learn how to eat with your heart and not your
head. Decide your body can be trusted. Stop fighting your appetite and
let everything be on the table. Be flexible with yourself. It's a
practice. We don't need to make it a "perfect".